About a month ago, I written a blog stating how I needed a vacation. I thought the matter was solved when Wah-Wah and I decided to drive up to the Black Hills for a week. Unfortunately my mom was offended that we were not planning on visiting her in Oregon. She had previously stated that she wasn't going to fly us out this summer and I couldn't afford a couple thousand dollars to fly out there. She changed her mind and is booking us tickets in August to fly out. I told her as much as I appreciate it, Wah-Wah and I really want to see something different besides Oregon. Mom didn't take that too well, so we decided to visit Oregon again.
I'm beginning to believe that I may end up living in Oregon someday. I don't like the idea of my parents flying me out there a couple times a year and having to spend all of our summer vacations with them. It's like they want us in their lives but at the same time they are moving across the country. Then there is the fact that my dad is trying to bribe us to move out there. It seems we are stuck. Wah-Wah's side of the family doesn't want us to move (even though we hardly see them anyway despite the fact they are in town), and my family is putting the pressure on to move. I'll have to decide some day.
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Before you move you probably want to assess your reasoning behind making a decision like that. If it is just to keep your mom happy, then it is probably not a good idea. If it is because the move will be beneficial in some way to your immediate family (you, Wah-Wah, and the kids), then the move could be a good thing.
While it isn't fun to do, you sometimes have to go through the guilt trips for your family's sake.
I think you need to call DR. LAURA.
Do you/have you ever listened to her? It seems like she gets calls with your type of situation often.
My vote would be for you guys to stay. Maybe you can work out a deal - one summer vacation in oregon the next summer vacation on your own. Alternate back and forth. This gives your parents to fly to KC on the non oregon summers and you a chance to see the Black Hills.
2 words on that situation:
eeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwww
Don't let other people control your life. I struggle with this also. Don't be a people pleaser--I think it causes depression because you never get to do what you want to do.
It sounds like your mom has unreasonable expectations for you. They are the ones that moved away. You should work out some compromise like Forrest suggested.
If it's like some situations I've been in, you can compromise all day and they still aren't happy. Learn to do what you want and still be polite. I'm struggling to learn that lesson all the time. Don't do things on a bribe, you won't regret making your own call. But on the other side, make up your mind to have a good time while you are there as much as possible.
That's all good advice. Must be harder with children because their grandparents want to see them so much...
While one shouldn't move for the wrong reasons, Oregon is a pretty great place. I may move to the Pacific Northwest when I retire. It would be much better than Florida, where all my relatives seem to end up.
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